Seal of approval

A man's own personal system...

Hollering from the den in the MenStylePower Mansion, Stylemeister’s voice could be heard as clear as crystal as he roared out his ever present laugh.

“Did you read on twitter the idiot who said that Seal was ugly?”.

My reply…

“Um, you mean the multi-awarding winning, married to one of the most beautiful women on the planet Seal?”.

“Yup”, Stylemeister replies.

So as we both read through the threads of tweet-dialogue from some twit on how ugly Seal is, we saw something quite remarkable. Fans trying to pacify Seal, and Seal letting it rip on this dude who had the hide to say what he said.

Seal believes that ‘few people speak out and take a stand when injustice is present, and that people need to be accountable’. Dude we’re on your side. You may write beautiful love songs, and many throughout the world see you as this wise ol’ peaceful yoda, but when you’re vocally attacked without provocation, hey. Nuff said.

Honour, Justice and Strength.

With the plethora of conversations on all social media platforms, and the average Joe getting more airtime than he knows what to do with thanks to the likes of Facebook and Twitter, it seems that we have lost our decency and our social etiquette. Why? Just because we now have a digital platform doesn’t give us permission to be rude and show disrespect. And unwarranted attacks like that on someone’s physical form, is one – highly immature and two – plain arrogant and self-servicing. No one else thought it was funny.

I recall hearing ‘Crazy’ by Seal in 1991. I was then a mere pipsqueak newly licensed and driving through the streets of the local town looking for chicken satay. I remember hearing Seal’s voice, his lyrics and the melody that was now in my head note to note. Who is this dude?!

True love, true enlightenment.

Seal was born Seal Henry Olusegun Olumide Adelo Samuel in 1963 in Kilburn in North London, England to a Nigerian father and Brazilian mother. His name, Olusegun, means “God is victorious”. Amen to that. Yet Seal was raised in Westminster by his foster family. Although he studied architecture and worked in various jobs, it was always his gravitation towards music that led him where he is today.

I remember seeing him for the first time in a photograph and noticing the severe scaring on his face. Back then the internet didn’t exist so it was through idle forms of gossip that I came to believe that he received his scars from a motorbike accident, but in fact, they are the result of a type of Lupus called Discoid lupus erythematosus – a condition that specifically affects the skin above the neck. And today I think they are warrior scars of a man who sings like an angel and renews his vows to his beautiful wife, Heidi Klum each year.

Seal and his wife, Heidi Klum

It’s quite amazing to know that Seal and Heidi aren’t satisfied to just getting married once. They love to toast each anniversary with a lavish party and renew their vows. All well and good you may think with both their celebrity salaries, but there’s more to it than that, says Seal. “It’s a great party, but for about an hour, we go off on our own down to a private beach. We sit there with the kids and read vows to each other as the sun sets. It’s a very special moment”.

Maybe this is why his new album is called ‘Commitment’? Maybe it’s just who he has been all his life. Loyal, committed, descent, nostalgic, grateful. Or maybe through having this battle with Lupus at a young age, or being raised by a foster family, it has taught him a thing or two about being humble, gracious and living out his dreams as he had nothing to lose. The pursuit of happiness perhaps?

Best friends, and lovers.

Stylemeister and I have heard and personally seen many stories of those who have, through great adversity, won over the challenges that were placed in front of them. It’s encouraging and it gives a man a sense of pride (without the arrogance) to know he has walked through his greatest fear. And fears change my friend. They sometimes repackage themselves to surface again later in life. So our advice to you? Look that fear in the eye not as an enemy but as an old friend. Acknowledge it’s there, and smile. You know what it is, and you know it has no power over you. Like ugliness. We are all handsome. And we all know it.

Cheers.

MSP.